You are the same age as me. I have presbyopia in both eyes (since turning 40) and an astigmatism in the left.

I must admit it was a long haul to finally get them to feel OK - I find it also depends on what cleansing solution is used! I have tried lots of different ones, and still always seem to need to rub them, even when I have used the hydrogen peroxide cleaners. If the lenses are not completely 100% clean, the edges feel very obvious indeed.

Perhaps you should try a different cleaner? It might help?