Relationships and Coloured Lenses?

#1 (**permalink**) 10-18-2009, 01:31 AM

Deleted due to a sarchastic answer. Too many sarchastic members (of the 3 total members) on this "forum". For future reference, if someone asks a genuine question (especially to help another person) there is no need for "dusch-baggery." Thanks.

Ynot · #2 (**permalink**) 10-19-2009, 09:09 AM

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Originally Posted by catt

WOW!!! How friggging strange is this relationship? I can not believe that she has hidden this aspect of herself for over one year, and I simply can't imagine why she has done so? Has he not seen any pictures of her when she was younger and WITHOUT different colored eyes????? Weird!

At what point did she really start to feel bad about this "dirty little secret"? I am not so sure that at this point it's truly a secret; I mean the guy HAS TO KNOW, ya know? Insofar as me finding out that this guy that I have been in a LTR doesn't really have "baby blue" eyes; just plain old ugly brown ones, I would for sure poke his eyes out! That would teach him to lie to me about something so mundane.

No, seriously I wouldn't care one bit. I would just be a little suspicious as to what else she may have not been telling me. I might go so far as to give her hair a couple of hard tugs to see if it was indeed real.

Bottom Line: Tell her to tell him NOW.! Hey, tell her to wear a different color and see if he notices. If he does, then that's her "lead in".

This situation is way to weird to be real.

Talk about a weird situation, I'm pretty much just hearing one side of it.

Catt, I agree with your point about being dishonest with someone you're in a relationship (or LTR, as you put it) with. When they find out you've been dishonest about something, they'll begin to wonder what else you've been less that forthcoming about.

On the other hand, I remember visiting some female friends of mine, two sisters. I was at their place pretty late and they excused themselves to go take their contacts out. They weren't color contacts, but it was still a surprise. I didn't feel like they were lying to me or "keeping something from me" though.

Maybe the girl who is wearing the contacts can just casually excuse herself and remove them. Then when he expresses surprise at her eye color, they can then talk about it, but he might be mad about being deceived, although technically it's not deceit if she never actually said "Yes, this is my true eye color" when wearing the colored contacts.

K_JM, I'm sorry about the sarcasm. I can't really control how people respond to your question, but I can tell you that most of the answers on this website are positive and helpful. I don't know what was said, but I hope you will still contribute to Lens 101 in the future.

Kamille206 · #3 (**permalink**) 04-17-2010, 09:20 PM

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Originally Posted by catt

WOW!!! How friggging strange is this relationship? I can not believe that she has hidden this aspect of herself for over one year, and I simply can't imagine why she has done so? Has he not seen any pictures of her when she was younger and WITHOUT different colored eyes????? Weird!

At what point did she really start to feel bad about this "dirty little secret"? I am not so sure that at this point it's truly a secret; I mean the guy HAS TO KNOW, ya know? Insofar as me finding out that this guy that I have been in a LTR doesn't really have "baby blue" eyes; just plain old ugly brown ones, I would for sure poke his eyes out! That would teach him to lie to me about something so mundane.

No, seriously I wouldn't care one bit. I would just be a little suspicious as to what else she may have not been telling me. I might go so far as to give her hair a couple of hard tugs to see if it was indeed real.

Bottom Line: Tell her to tell him NOW.! Hey, tell her to wear a different color and see if he notices. If he does, then that's her "lead in".

This situation is way to weird to be real.

haha thanks nice to know brown eyes are ugly: "just plain old ugly brown ones, I would for sure poke his eyes out!" and people wonder why us brown eyed folks wear contacts lol. well my eyes might as well be black. anyways back to the point, i would be mad if my bf was hiding this from me only for the fact that he lied, but i wouldn't break of the relationship over his friken eye color lol, i would be concerned about his insecurity and honesty problems though. i wear contacts and i dont go around saying their mines, but hey if i like how i look with different colored eyes passing the mirror now and then, then i dont care what other ppl say, but i wouldnt wear them obsessively and claim their mines lol.

Unicorn3 · #4 (**permalink**) 04-19-2010, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Kamille206

haha thanks nice to know brown eyes are ugly: "just plain old ugly brown ones, I would for sure poke his eyes out!" and people wonder why us brown eyed folks wear contacts lol. well my eyes might as well be black. anyways back to the point, i would be mad if my bf was hiding this from me only for the fact that he lied, but i wouldn't break of the relationship over his friken eye color lol, i would be concerned about his insecurity and honesty problems though. i wear contacts and i dont go around saying their mines, but hey if i like how i look with different colored eyes passing the mirror now and then, then i dont care what other ppl say, but i wouldnt wear them obsessively and claim their mines lol.

You make several good points, Kamille206. I'm not currently dating anyone right now, but if I were, and I found out several months into our relationship that she was wearing color contacts, yes, I'd wonder why she didn't tell me, but unless I said something like "You know what I love most about you? Your beautiful eyes" I don't see how it would come up.
It would be a little awkward if we were having an intimate dinner and suddenly she blurted out "I wear colored contact lenses, hair coloring, nail extensions and this is a fake tan! There, I said it!"

Kamille206 · #5 (**permalink**) 04-19-2010, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Unicorn3

You make several good points, Kamille206. I'm not currently dating anyone right now, but if I were, and I found out several months into our relationship that she was wearing color contacts, yes, I'd wonder why she didn't tell me, but unless I said something like "You know what I love most about you? Your beautiful eyes" I don't see how it would come up.
It would be a little awkward if we were having an intimate dinner and suddenly she blurted out "I wear colored contact lenses, hair coloring, nail extensions and this is a fake tan! There, I said it!"

LMAO good one and thanks for pointing that out, true it would be very awkward if she were to point all that stuff out on nice romantic date

Juicer · #6 (**permalink**) 04-20-2010, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Kamille206

LMAO good one and thanks for pointing that out, true it would be very awkward if she were to point all that stuff out on nice romantic date

Yeah, that would be funny.

I had a good female friend years ago who never told me she wore (non-colored) contacts. It just so happened that I was visiting with her one evening and she hadn't found a polite way to kick me out, so she excused herself to take her contacts out. I got the hint, and I wasn't insulted that she never mentioned the contacts. I never felt like she was "hiding" anything from me, it just never came up.

Of course, we weren't dating, so maybe that would have made a difference, I don't know.